It's a long story, but ill try to explain as best as I can.We met in highschool when we were 16 years old and have been in a relationship since then. We took 2 breaks in our 5/6 year relationship. Lasting 2x6 months. Both breaks initated by me.She's a very religious person which means no sex before marriage. Couple of weeks ago, we started talking about sex and such, where I somehow started to explain how sex is physical for men and emotional for women. Fast forward to few days ago, we're grinding(clothes on)and she finishes and leaves me blueballed. I tell her that it kinda hurts and she finishes me off with her hands for the first time. [possibly relevant info]2 days later, we're at the seaside house, having a smoke. She puts 4 sun umbrella things on the balcony so her sister whos staying a floor directly below us can't see her. I told her to put them down and sit down on the table with me like a normal person. She says no, she's gonna sit on the floor. I tell her to stop sitting on the floor because It feels like Im humiliating her. She goes full apeshit crying mode, like can't catch her breath from all the crying mode, saying how I dont understand her, or dont want to understand her, that I should let her do what she wants to do and stop suffocating. So I addmit that I shouldnt have force her to sit on the table, that she has the right to do what she wants, all the classic comforting stuff, while I admmit that it was my fault and she finally falls asleep.Today, her friends says I gained some weigth. I suggest that we should go jogging tonight. She goes into the same mode again, only saying that I called her fat, that I don't find her attractive, how I'm insulting her and so on. I just let her be mad at me today and am constantly repeating I only suggested we go for a run. Not implying anything else. She is still attacking me right now and Im still holding my ground.These are just 2 most recent events. Usually we could've worked everything out, nothing super serious in our relationship that couldn't be handled. Its not her period, she didnt have these escapades before.She sometimes makes the most stupid subject a problem for no reason. With increasing frequncy lately.Ive been fully faithful, never cheated on her. She claims the same. Im leaving to a friends house for a week which we preplanned and shes kinda mad about that too. Altough she made some new friends that dont make me very comfortable while they're around her. She's very secretive about who they are. Im not jealous, I dont constrain her, I try to do everything I can for her, but she constantly needs reassurance. Is it going to get better? I am thinking about marrying this girl.She's studying psychology, Im at physics and IT.Am I seeing problems where there aren't any? What am I to do next? Ask any questions if something is unclear.Help.Advise. via /r/relationship_advice http://ift.tt/2uyjWSr
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